How old are you Candace 40ish Come on you really not going to say your age? no that's rude. 46 I don't want to see my age? Are you 46 Really? Yes. vacation. What's different between 46 and 26 besides my boobs? Yeah, besides your boobs? Um I don't really care about as much about what people think.

that was a big part of your you're when you're 26. That was a big part of life is caring about what other people think. yeah and like the future and what was they going to be and how was my family going to look? How was what was my family going to look like? like how many kids was I going to have was I going to have kids and now it's like that's all done. so I don't have to worry about that anymore is about to pour out again.

I think when I was in my 20s I'd wake up every day and be like now like what am I going to do not like in the morning with work but I would worry I'd have anxiety about what my life was going to look like when I was an adult. a real adult and it would worry me all day and all night. It's probably why I drink so much. Where are we going Candace I don't know I don't know fancy C Where are we going I didn't understand what he said.

it's open. That's give me the rundown. Where are we Candace in a empty restaurant I Think my biggest worry now is time is now. Time is running out and I'm on the I'm you really feel that way? Yeah I start to think about like how many more years do I have with my kids? how many more years do I have with Franny before she like doesn't want to talk to me you know what I mean I think so yeah.

why is there a swimming pool in the restaurant? It doesn't any water? well I think it's off seon probably in the summer time. This place is obviously J Pack how many seats they have when you're younger. So you asked me the difference between then and now when you're younger. there's an innocence and a naive naive uh, ignorance almost to thinking big like when you're a teenager and you're think oh peace, you're like yeah, I can get it I can solve the world Problem can solve The World's problems and then you get older and you're like no I can't and I'm going to focus on my family and I think that's why it's like I'm glad that we have a little family to take care of, keeps you sane.

Yeah, you start to understand and appreciate what you actually can contribute exactly to the world. Yeah, sometimes the greatest impact is controlling like the mess in your bedroom and it makes you feel better. Isn't this so pretty? What was it? What does a trip like this mean When in your 20 in my 20s It was like checking off a story to tell. you know what I mean V like an adventure So I had like I could put another like chapter in my book like the next page oh my God and so my book was could be really full and by the time I was here I have done all these crazy I would have done all these crazy things now it doesn't mean that much I don't need to check off that I Went on on a on a vacation to the Dominican Republic now it's more like I Went away with my husband for 2 days and it was relaxing and I got to sleep and we got to talk and we got to play in the rain.

We didn't really no we did not. yeah yeah that's what it means. What are we getting for the kids? What do you look forward to now in life? um my kids like are little like building like our our Nest I look forward to you and me being old and looking back and be like we did it. There's some of that now.

yeah and every time every year I feel like we're like look what we did look what we're doing. that's just what I keep looking forward to I think like every day being able to have so before it was like filling chapters in my book. Now it's like going back and reading the rereading the chapters and be like look what we did remember that time or even just a few days ago. remember when Georgie was being silly in that showcase that she was in like you know? uhhuh I Get the before it was the joy of the anticipation and the the excitement of doing new things.

Now it's the joy of like reflection. Even like an hour ago and like 5 years ago, those are good answers. How's your vacation? Candace Beautiful. Sorry, it never stopped raining.

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Cace, how old were you when you went to therapy for the first time? 19 years old and and what made you want to go to therapy? Um I think that the minute I thought about wanting to go to therapy is when I knew it was time to go to therapy I know it's just a feeling where you feel like you can't talk. you're done talking to your parents or your sister or your friend. Like you get that feeling you're like I need something more. That's when I knew I had to start.

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